Most of us received a pretty poor sex education, if we received one at all. Somehow, we're expected to just figure it out without much guidance. Leaving it to chance makes us vulnerable to all kinds of influence, which can make it hard to know who we truly are as sexual beings. With special guest Shaun Miller, we'll take a deep dive into the topic of sexual autonomy and how it can help you.
Figuring out who you are as a sexual person is process - your sexuality is dynamic, and everyone seems to have an opinion about what you should do and what your sexuality should be like. You receive messages from family, friends, and your society at large.
Men should do this. Women should do that. Should. Should. Should.
The murkiness of "should sexuality" is evident when it comes to discussions of consent and the discomfort that can accompany them. But, what if consent wasn't a means to the end of having sex, but instead was an end in itself. Consent at its best is a practice that you live out as an expression of your sexual autonomy.
In today's episode, we're joined by Shaun Miller. Shaun is an independent scholar focusing on the philosophy of love and sex which includes sexual ethics, intimate interactions, and reforming gendered expectations. Among other things, he's taken deep dives into models of consent and positive masculinity.
Together, we explore:
Thanks to Shaun Miller for joining us on the Sexual Craftsmanship podcast. Shaun was born and raised in Utah and went to earn his PhD in philosophy. He currently resides in Washington DC. Shaun’s research interests currently include BDSM, sexual consent, positive male sexuality, and investigating how sex robots could change our intimate lives.
You can learn more about Shaun by visiting his website: https://shaunmiller.blog/
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